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  • Writer's pictureEd Johnson

Self care and why mediate?

With the continued backlog of cases mediation is now more than ever the best choice to find a resolution for your dispute.  Get your dispute resolved now so you can really concentrate on what’s important and what deserves your time and energy.

Northwest Mediation continues to use Zoom, Skype and FaceTime as well as the phone and emails to resolve disputes should we add we also do live in person mediation too!  So please do not feel that you cannot contact us if you would like to mediate but wish to do so remotely.

I’ve been thinking about why I chose mediation as my V2 career, a lot of it has to do with luck, timing and conscience but an equal amount is about finding a job that allows for self-care.

When I think about some of my darkest personal times before moving jobs I remember a 2 am call from my wife asking where I was, the answer was the office when I think about what were the really completely avoidable issues that once comes up a lot.  It’s not my darkest moment, and I won’t share that one with you, but I do try to remember that when people come to mediation it’s often after they’ve put themselves and others through a lot of unnecessary stress.

I often find when I talk to clients about the support they have that there are still lots who do not feel they need support, as social animals that simply isn’t the case, rarely do I allow a client to brush off the need for support because they don’t believe that the stress and strain of their issue (business or family related) is causing them a problem.  I’m more than happy to recommend speaking therapy of some sort, though certain members of the study board may criticise this as being unrelated to mediation, I don’t care, or rather I do.  If my clients need support I will go out of my way to find them some options, I can’t make them attend of course but the support is out there. 

It is of course also (leading up to Father’s Day) International Men’s Health Awareness Week not that MH is limited to men but sadly we still see far too many men ignoring the mental health damage they are suffering, there’s been a fair bit of it in the family and thankfully we are now at a stage in society where support for MH issue through therapy and medication is more acceptable, though there are still those who view it as “weakness” or an excuse (don’t get me started on that one).  So as you read today’s thrilling blog remember take some time for yourself, breathe (through the nose), chew more, talk more, listen more you only get one life don’t waste it in misery (and if you need it come to mediation).

Taking a pause in strike action to have a go at mediation is one way of looking out for your members’ wellbeing as well as those directly involved.

Here we have the Canada Boarder Service Agency (CBSA) taking a break from strike action to mediate with their government as confirmed by Customs and Immigration Union National President, Mark Weber, not the former Redbull F1 driver he has to Bs in his name. “Our members are essential – protecting our borders, preventing auto theft and stopping illegal drugs and firearms from entering Canada – and they deserve a fair contract that treats them with respect and dignity in line with other law enforcement agencies across the country”.

There’s an excellent question posed in this piece which sadly is only available if you’re on a VPN.

But let’s boil it down to lots of cases going to mediation means more mediators needed, with a change of government hopefully the flow of cases away from expensive delayed courts and into mediation will continue (in the UK).

I don’t think it’s a question of striking it rich or going bust, yes there will be snake oil sellers and referral companies who start to emerge with promises of no settle no fee, but proper mediators will continue to thrive so let’s not get too despondent.

And to play Mornington Crescent we end up back where I started the whys and wherefores of moving into the profession. This time from Susan Guthrie it’s a good listen, the change of mindset but retaining the tools you came with being vital to changing to a mediator (I changed wardrobe, seat and attitude to ensure a different mindset when mediating – even when employing the old legal skill set).

The three pillars of mediation remain it’s voluntary (at the moment), it’s confidential, the mediator is independent, by using those pillars to support your work the parties keep control, save costs, save time and energy and reduce stress. 

In person or via electronic media as we’ve said before choose to mediate early and resolve your issues effectively, timeously, and with less stress and costs than going to your solicitor so you can get out choose a different path, not quite the road less travelled but perhaps the path less adversarial. You have an interest in the outcome the sooner you get round the mediation table the quicker you can move forward and avoid the grilling a cross examination in court would put you through.

By having a deep and meaningful discussions with parties the mediator elicits what the true “red-lines” are and where there is the potential for compromise, it is with this structured period of reflection that the parties are then able to reach an accord.

The flexible nature of mediation and the possible outcomes make it an ideal way to resolve disputes in an ever-changing world and the open nature of discussions in mediation whilst remaining confidential allows all sides to engage fully in the process and understand the needs of all involved allowing parties to reach a conclusion which both sides can live with and move on.

There are so many situations which could have been resolved by early intervention of mediation it continues to surprise me the lengths the public will go to avoid referral.

Whether you need a mediator to help out with a construction matter in the Northwest, or council’s plans in Cheshire, a civil mediator in London, a commercial mediator in Manchester, a dispute resolution for your family in Liverpool, a neighbourhood mediation in Stockport, then our mediators at Northwest Mediation can help.

Mediation is cheaper, quicker and less stressful than running any case to court, it can help with any dispute whether it's an employment issue or the sale at an under value of a property, a fight with a neighbour, family issues, commercial disputes, civil mediation or inheritance, wills and probate arguments contact me at Northwest Mediation on 0161 667 4418 or via email at

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